Sunday, May 1, 2011

Do You Suffer From Comparisonitis?

COMPARISONITIS:  the act of comparing oneself or one's gifts to another deemed as superior.

Do you suffer from comparisonitis?

I know I do --- at least I did the past couple of weeks.

It all began innocently enough by participating in a blog hop.  PLEASE NOTE - I'm not saying there's anything wrong with blog hops at all.  However, my focus wasn't "Wow!  Look at this Mom's blog and how she's using her gifts in her ministry to her family".  It was "Wow, look at this Mom and how eloquent she speaks....the trips she takes...the stuff she has...the pizazz of her blog...the perfectly dressed, coordinated and clean pictures of her children...."  I was using the measure of grace and gifting bestowed upon those other Moms and measuring it against myself.

Do you know what I found?  I fell short.  Do you know what it got me?  Nowhere!  The one thing it did do was to hinder the God given gifts and calling/purpose of the ministry God has chosen for me in this season.

Fortunately, God brought me back to reality when a fellow homeschooling Mom asked me a simple question about spelling curriculum.  "S-N-A-P"  Yes!!  I was back in my element !

It was a good reminder of what God has gifted and called me to in this season and where my heart's desire lies.

So, while you'll probably never see pictures of my children color coordinated and perfectly groomed or read a long soliloquy in perfect English I will guarantee the original purpose of this blog.  To encourage homeschoolers the way I know how:  by giving them a glance into our 'school' and to share my opinion of homeschool products that I am blessed to review.  Short and sweet, to the point, what you see is what you get, down to earth....this is me sharing my heart with you.

No need for comparisons!

Romans 12:2-4 (New King James Version)

2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
3 For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. 4 For as we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function,

Ephesians 4:7 (New King James Version)

7 But to each one of us grace was given according to the measure of Christ’s gift


  1. I think that I can say that I do not really compare myself to others. However, I do compare myself to what I believe God wants me to be...and there I fall short. This comparison is a bit pointless because that is somewhere where I will never measure up on this earth. Still....

  2. This very topic came up at church today with one of our sweet women beating herself up over something she forgot to do for the church. She began comparing herself to others in the church who, in her estimation, "Never" forget things. I assured that everyone did, in fact, forget from time to time and that there was grace. I felt so badly for her because she was so focused on what others would have done/not done in the situation she was denying herself the grace to move on. Comparisons are terrible things. May God grant us all blinders!

  3. I laughed so hard when I read the title in FAH because I knew exactly what you meant. I was doing that just this morning. Thanks for helping me remember that God gave me talents and abilities and work of my own to do. I don't need to worry about anyone else. :)

  4. Yes, "the grass is always greener" over there somewhere! You are right, we must just do what God calls us to do and use what He has given us. Moses couldn't speak well, but God used him to call forth a nation.

  5. I just taught on that passage today. We are given our gifts, whether it is an apostle on down to home schooling mom, by the grace of God and nothing else, and since there is no earning it, and no higher levels, there is no need for comparison.

    Great post Sis!

  6. This post was so timely. It was the "snap" I needed. I have felt this same way recently. Thank you.

  7. It's oh so easy to fall into the comparison trap. I think even more so for bloggers, especially those of us that aren't the leaders of the pack and don't have the professional website and photographs.

    Great post Lisa!

  8. Great Post!! I also suffer from Comparisonitis from time to time! :)

  9. Comparisonitis - yep, it can get me in a lot of trouble! I'm not as bad as I was before I was saved though, all glory to God! Every so often the competitiveness reappears with a vengeance, till that "snap" moment comes, whatever form it takes!

  10. Yep, this is an ongoing problem we all face, in some form or fashion. If it's not making comparisons about our "schools", it's us making comparisons about how we run our households, raise our children, dress, wear our hair, etc.
    It's a dangerous place to go, unless we use it to make positive changes, but even then - God has to be our standard, not other humans.
    I guarantee, the women who look like they have it all together, are lacking in some area of their life too.

  11. It is a breath of fresh air knowing that there are *humans* out there, just like me! ;) Thank you for this post. I have been overcome (overWHELMED is more like it) by "Comparisonitis" many times over in the past, and it still tries getting the best of me from time to time even now. Then I remember ALL the MANY articles, books, posts (such as this one), etc. that remind me that we are JUST FINE in our homeschool journey! Most importantly, I recall what The Lord has to say about our chosen path, (afterall, it was He that put us on this path in the first place), and then I KNOW that everything is fine, indeed. :) Everyone's journey, including ours, is unique! and that makes me smile! :) ~Morgan

  12. thank you for linking up this post. It is a much needed topic in the blogosphere and one that I too suffer from from time to time. I keep telling myself that i will not let comparison steal my joy but then, there it creeps in again. this post is such a good reminder that comparison serves no purpose except to steal joy and that we all are bestowed unique gifts. Thanks for linking up at the Best of 2011 link up. Please come back over to Brighton Park and pick up the Best of 2011 Royal Court button from my sidebar and place on yours for December (or longer if you want...its pretty awesome!). All my best, katie