Christian Homeschoolers Taking a Stand has just posted their weekly "Homeschool Family Question of the Week" link up.
This weeks question:
How do I keep my middle-schooler going and not fight me ALL THE TIME about doing school work?
I know when this question was asked, the reader was looking specifically for information for a child with aspergers, but as we all know, homeschoolers are great at taking an idea and transforming it into something that will work for their family. Please, if you have any experience with middle-schoolers, answer this question on your blog and link it in the Christian Homeschoolers Taking a Stand blog or answer in the comments below the post on their blog. Thanks so much for participating in a little corner of the homeschool internet web to help support and encourage homeschool families around the globe.
This weeks question proved challenging for me to answer. You see, I have very little problem getting my middle schooler to do what is asked of him.
Now, before you congratulate me with a pat on the back and a "homeschooling mom of the year award", let me be blunt and tell you that while we don't have THAT particular challenge, we certainly have PLENTY of other challenges in our homeschool.
Revjen from Reflections on an Intentional Life is an incredible mom friend who is raising and homeschooling an incredible young man who was diagnosed with Aspergers at the age of 2 (and is now in high school and will soon be learning to drive!). She and her husband have done it all with therapies, dietary changes, you name it! I'd like to share a piece of advice she recently gave another friend of mine regarding her older child with Aspergers:
" my oldest is autistic although functions at a very high level after YEARS of therapy. When we first started homeschooling I had the same issues you do. What I learned was that kids with ASD NEED a very structured schedule. Back in those days it would have taken an absolute act of God to change our schedule one tiny bit. Now, we can be a little more flexible. Also, he has a check list every day (now it's a student planner) and that helps tremendously! I know it isn't popular or fun, but make a schedule, post it on the fridge and STICK TO IT....even if that means saying no to things that would interfere with your schedule. Also, I suggest getting your other kids involved with sibshop through CARD. It will help them understand their brother."
If you are a mom facing struggles with your middle (and older) schooler, you are not alone! I encourage you to click on through to the Christian Homeschoolers Taking a Stand blog and read through the blogs linked up. I also encourage you to build a network of support either physical or virtual to ask questions, share concerns and receive prayer and support. No Mom is an island and sometimes a sister-in-the-Lord is exactly what is needed!